I think I'm a bit of a people pleaser myself, so hearing criticism isn't something I'm a huge fan of either. I know that it has it's place, but I truly hate to disappoint people. While I thought sharing what I was good at was hard, it's just as difficult to put my shortcomings out there, despite it being easier to think of areas where I fall short. These last two prompts are more alike than different in some ways.
The very first criticism that comes to mind will probably sound positive at first: I have pretty high expectations of myself. That's a good thing, right? Mostly, it really is a good thing. I think it's part of the reason I have the ability to motivate myself as well as others. But I also wind up feeling guilty about silly things - like buying my lunch or sleeping in. What weird things to feel guilty about! But I often do - I should have gotten a better start on the day; I should have packed a lunch. Shoulda. Coulda. Woulda.
This then translates to my expectations of others. I expect a lot from people - in group projects, at work, in my friendships. The problem with this is that my expectations aren't always realistic. Furthermore, they may not even align with that person's priorities. Can I really expect people to have the same priorities as I do? Regardless, they fall short in my mind & that's not really fair. I've been working on going easier on myself & trying not to feel guilty about the little things, but it's definitely something I continue to need to work on.
Another big one is that I can be pretty opinionated. Again, this can be a good thing. I'm really passionate about a lot of things &, chances are, I just want you to understand why I think x is "the most amazing thing everrrr." This also lands me in some trouble sometimes. Not everything is black & white & everyone is entitled to their opinion. I know this, but I'll still probably argue with you & get a little intense about it.
Since I'm posting this almost a week late, I'm going to leave it at those two things. How about you? What things do you see that you could change or work on?
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Since I'm posting this almost a week late, I'm going to leave it at those two things. How about you? What things do you see that you could change or work on?
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